All in Time

Something happened.

To most of us.

It changed us.

It probably broke us.

It left us in ruins.

For some people we were the villains.

For some we were the victims.

No these are not lyrics but facts cause we've all sort of gone through something that left us choked and shattered. Broken and battered. Beaten and feeling like we didn't matter. (Someone turn this into a song😯😄😄😄)
At some point in our lives we let ourselves love someone or some people unconditionally only for them to sorta...I don't know...not do the exact same. I heard somewhere that we are the heroes in our own stories, but I guess some never realise that they are the villains in other people's stories.

I don't want to waste anyone's time in this post. I wanna be practical. Real. Authentic. Me.

A lot of people have been there. That place. Where everything feels at a standstill because of some major event. Someone, it could've been your mom, your dad, your boyfriend, your girlfriend or even your sibling who crushed you.

In my first draft of this post I'd created a list of things we all could have possibly done to get over all the pain. Somewhere along the way I realised that all that didn't matter. The bottom line is that we all wanna be happy. That's it. We search for peace. In the spiritual sense I say look to God but this post is mostly about the practicality of all of this. The pain. The confusion. The hurt. (This sounds so sad and depressing doesn't it😂😨)

Well my key note in this post is sad songs. My last post was about mental illnesses. Just because a person listens to sad songs doesn't mean they're sick mentally. Sometimes it just means they're bleeding on the inside. They're in pain because of something someone did to them. Sadly sometimes people don't realize when they have hurt us. And so it's really important for us to guard our peace. We're human. We break. We crumble. It's sad but true. We try to be strong. We ignore the pain and that sucks.

Message to the boys : It's alright to be emotional. Never let ignorant people tell you boys can't or don't cry. They expect you not to cry and then when some of you lash out in violence they wonder why you never expressed yourselves. Open up. You're human and that is what you were made to be. Not Superhuman. My heart goes out to you because I've seen a lot of you suppressed and oppressed by society and it sucks. Like it really does. Cause some of your friends laugh about you listening to sad music and if a girl sees you crying she calls you weak. That's not right. I say you can show emotion and still be strong.

We all heal at different times. We all move on at different times. I hate hearing people say "Its been so long you should be over this" NEVER think you know the pain someone is handling. You are not them and so have no right to tell them how or when they must heal. We all heal in our own time, we battle our demons in our own manner. Human beings hurt and they get hurt. Such is the circle of emotions. Our pain is deeper than meets the eye. Everyone knows this. The pain of betrayal is another type of hurt that doesn't easily go away.

My suggestion to anyone going through this?
- Don't hurt yourself  (i.e. cutting yourself), the wounds you have are invisible so don't make them visible marks that are a bitter reminder for the rest of your life.
- Dont run away from your feelings. Running from your pain only prolongs the inevitable.
- Talk to people you trust, who remind you of the good things and that what happened is in the past.
- Listen to sad songs (personal experience 😁) it helps you grasp reality in a way. Plus I heard from someone once that people's favourite songs are only their favourite songs because they say the words they wish they could say.
- Pray and reach out to God  (personal experience as well😀) he heals all wounds both physical and those found within.
- Take as long as you need.
- Do not lash out. Don't go doing random things that harm your health and endanger you as a person all under the impression you'll forget about your problems
- Dont be too strong. Strong people need friends to give them a hug or pep talk to push through the hard times
- Get rid of all bitterness and hatred and anguish before it eats you up
- Love yourself. You're not lost. You're just taking a break from growing so you can heal your battle wounds.

Shoutout to TV, who inspired this post and helped me get through my own battle and helped me heal as well. Till next time (these posts have gotta stop coming off so serious sometimes 😁😁 jeez. Apologies if this post came off messy. It's sorta hard to write about something I can relate to on an emotional level first hand and keep a straight head.
Till next time, Awkward Girl😀